Do the choices you make in life make you a happier person?

mt. gandalf

I recently got inspired by MaggieOur Next Life, Amber Tree Leaves,  Slowly Sipping Coffee and their fill-the-bucket lists. I have been blogging the last year and half and my little blog has certainly evolved over time. Personally I always get a kick out of reading other great blogs and getting blog post inspiration from them. It's amazing to be able to connect with other bloggers and exchange knowledge and ideas.

One key lesson I've realized the last few months is that I need to focus my writings on the why, not the what. I'm writing this blog to hopefully help others around me, not for monetary gains or fame. I will continue writing down my thoughts and hopefully this will create more personal connections with you, my dear reader.

To me, the fill-the-bucket list has an entirely different definition than a bucket list. A bucket list contains things that one hope to accomplish in their life time. When we accomplish something on our bucket list, we feel proud, majestic, and we want to tell others about it. On the other hand, the fill-the-bucket list contains things and opportunities that one has done so far in life that provided tremendous amount of joy and happiness. Because life is full of opportunities, it is upon us to find ways to take these opportunities and make them a long lasting experience. Great memories will not go away, so throughout our life, we can always reflect back and remember these memories. Unlike the bucket list, which may not be 100% completed by the time we die, the fill-the-bucket list is always full (or at least it should be). 

Both Maggie, Our Next Life, Amber Tree Leaves, and Slowly Sipping Coffee have shared a lot of cool stuff on their lists, and here are a few things that are on my fill-the-bucket list.

  • Walking on the Great Wall: When I visited China years ago for work and had to spend the weekend in Beijing, my co-workers and I hired a private tour bus and visited the Great Wall of China. Considering the history, it was absolutely amazing to walk and touch this historical wonder. The section of the Wall that we visited had a lot of steep stairs, it's hard to imagine what it'd be like running up and down the wall as a soldier back in the days.

great wall

  • Making Baby T1.0 laughing hysterically: Before becoming a dad, I never understood why people say kids will change your life forever. Now I totally understand. Baby T1.0 is a very happy toddler most of the time. It's fun and delightful to be able to make him laugh hysterically by doing silly things. Whenever I see Baby T1.0 laugh, I forget all the troubles and worries I have.
  • Walked underneath the Itsukushima Shrine torii gate (i.e. floating torii gate): I've always wanted to see the floating torii gate in person. I somehow arrived in Miyajima when it was low tide, which allowed me to walk underneath this historical torii gate and I was even able to touch it.

torii gate
torii gate 2

  • Learning English: When my family and I came to Canada from Taiwan more than 20 years ago, I knew very little English. I knew the English alphabet and a few simple phrases like "How are you," "My name is," etc. Going to school without being able to understand anyone was extremely difficult. I might as well go to a school with a bunch of dogs. 🙂 With that said, being dropped into a complete English speaking environment kept me motivated and allowed me to learn English very quickly.
  • Walking through gas chamber of Dachau: During my university days, I lived and worked in Germany for 8 months as part of my Co-op experience. This stay gave me many opportunities to travel all over Europe. On one of my visits to Munich, I took the train to Dachau to experience WWII concentration camp. Although it was said that the Dachau gas chamber was never operational, I had chills running down my spine as I walked through the chamber. Standing in front of the huge gas ovens that was used to burn the bodies and imagining the horror, was something I cannot describe in words.

gas chamber


  • Shaking hands with a British Royal: I once shook hands with Prince Andrew for receiving some young people achievement award. I even managed to talk to him for a brief moment. Because my short conversation I was interviewed by a reporter and mentioned in a Vancouver newspaper the next day.
  • Winter camping in -16 degree Celsius (3.2 degree Fahrenheit): I actually have done my shares of backcountry winter camping and really enjoyed it. Yes it's cold but it's amazing to be sitting in the wilderness in the middle of the winter. Definitely need to remember to put your boots and gloves in the sleeping bag so they don't freeze overnight. Let's say going for #2 in this kind of weather definitely gives you a perspective on life.


Home sweet home.

snow kitchen

Just chillin!

  • Getting on top of pointy rocks: I really love getting on top of pointy rocks. Which is why I enjoy rock climbing and scrambling so much. Rock climbing in Joshua Tree and Red Rock was mind blowing. Sitting on top of Mt. Ganfalf was one of the scariest things I've done so far in my life.

sport lead climbing

mt. gandalf

Your truly sitting on Mt. Gandalf summit block (2391 m)

mt. gandalf 2

Mt. Gandalf from another side

Mt. Overseer

Hiking down after another successful summit in BC backcountry

Bonus, the fill-the-bucket list I've done together with Mrs. T

  • Riding in a gondola in Venice: When we went to Italy for our honeymoon, Mrs. T and I rode in a gondola together. It was very romantic and very neat to see Venice from the water.
  • Eating meals together without distractions: We make an effort and sit down together to have most of our meals together. We do not watch TV (we can't because we don't have a TV). We spend the time talking and enjoy each other's company. Basically having quality time together as a family. 🙂
  • Devoured the Cake Table (sønderjysk kaffebord) in Denmark: An old Danish tradition, Mrs. T and I (along with Baby T1.0) had the chance to eat 21 different delicious cakes & cookies. This is something that the Danes value very highly as it is an excellent way to have afternoon hygge and spend quality time with friends and family.





  • The 2010 Olympics: When Vancouver/Whistler hosted the 2010 Olympics, Mrs. T and I went to several events together. One of the highlights was attending the Canada vs. Slovakia semi-final. Yes the tickets were expensive but the atmosphere and experience was totally worth it. Another highlight was when we went skiing in Whistler and taking pictures with Olympic medal winners and meeting the medalists in person. One highlight I'd never forget is cheering with other fellow Canadians when Canada won the gold medal in mens hockey. Thousands of people were in downtown Vancouver, cheering and celebrating. It was an amazing and crazy experience.


olympics 3

olympics 2

  • Seeing glacier calving in Glacier National Park in Alaska: When Mrs. T was pregnant with Baby T1.0 we went for a 7 day Alaska cruise vacation. To see and hear glacier calving was an amazing and rather loud experience.


  • Writing & publishing two cookbooks: Mrs. T and I wrote and published two cookbooks. The first book, Cozy Cooking, is about our favourite recipes in our childhoold, our bachelor/bachelorette days, and when we moved in together. The second book, Three Weddings and a Honeymoon, is inspired by all the food items that we had in our 3 weddings in Vancouver and Denmark and food we had on our Honeymoon in Italy. Unlike the typical cookbooks, our cookbooks are also about our lives and the foods that we love to cook on a daily basis. Each recipe has a story behind it.

Cozy Cooking

three weddings and a honeymoon

As you can see, I've done a lot of cool and fun things; Mrs. T and I have also done quite a few neat things together as well. While our "bucket list" is quite long and ambitious, it's great to take the time to reflect on what our fill-the-bucket list is like.

Writing about the fill-the-bucket list has made me realize that we're constantly making trade offs between spending money and not spending money. We spent the money to go watch the Olympics hockey game, we spent the money to go to Italy for our honeymoon. In return we received a lot of unforgettable experiences. We could have saved the money and invested in dividend stocks or other passive income generating sources, but we wouldn't have these amazing memories that we can look back on years later.

Life is also about taking chances and taking opportunities when they're available to you. For example, publishing the cookbooks together was not something that neither of us ever considered. The opportunity just presented itself. So we choose to be open to the opportunity and let things unfold. Where these cookbooks will take us, we don't know, but we're open to the endless opportunities that are ahead of us. Interestingly enough, one of the regrets that people have on their death bed, is wishing that they had the courage to live a life true to themselves, not the life others expected of them. Many dreams and opportunities that people have are unfulfilled because they do not act when chances and opportunities are presented. When looking back, they regret some of their decisions. Socrates' statement that “the life that is unexamined is not worth living” is a great one to ponder about.

Ultimately, life is not just about money. Yes it may seem that this world is powered by money but that's not true when you look deeper. Many things in life do not involve money at all; there are many things in our fill-the-bucket list that I didn't mention, which do not involve money at all. Simple things like eating meals together without distraction, enjoying Baby T1.0 laughing, marrying someone that I love, seeing our son born in front of me, and having quality family time together. Money should not dictate and define who we are. Life is about the choices that we are making and the choices that we will be making. Money is just one of the many tools that we can use in life to achieve certain things.

Talking about experience and memory, it reminded me of a quote from City of Angels which Mrs. T and I recently watched. The movie is about an angel (Seth) who falls in love with a human doctor. After a lot of thinking, Seth decides to walk away from eternity to become a human so he can be with the doctor. Unfortunately the doctor dies soon after Seth's decision. Toward the end of the movie another angel asks Seth if he regrets becoming a human. Seth replies with this powerful statement:

I’d rather have one breath of her hair, one kiss of her mouth, one touch of her hand than an eternity without it. One.

Eternity might be great and all, but without being able to feel, touch, or experience, how good is eternity? I believe the same thing applies to money. Having money is great and all, but on your death bed, you probably won't be thinking about that $10 million dollar in your bank account, you're probably thinking about the memories that you had in your life and all the things that you've done and enjoyed. What's really more important? Money or experience? Money is simply one of many tools that enables us to create memorable experiences.

I'm sure you've probably heard of the term You Only Live Once (YOLO). The term implies that one should enjoy life, even if that entails taking risks, as if there would not be another chance for it. Some people use YOLO as their reasoning for spending money on experience now and not save money for the future. On the other hand, you probably have heard or known someone that only saves and does not spend money on any extra luxuries in life. I believe neither of these extreme approaches are healthy.

Once you have the basics in life covered, other luxury items can indeed bring happiness to your life, however, only to a certain extend. These luxury items or memorable experiences in life will have increasingly diminished returns on happiness. It is upon us to find the right balance between saving and spending. Life is about choices and finding the right balance. What's right for me may not be right for you. We are all different after all. The most important question you can ask yourself when making a money vs. experience question is:

Are you a happier person with whatever outcome you decide?

Given two options, if option A makes you a happier person in the long run, then I believe that's the right option for you. 🙂

Challenge: Start a Fill-the-Bucket list. If you have a blog, share some things that are on your fill-the-bucket list. If you don’t have a blog tell me some of the awesome opportunities you’ve taken in your life so far, in the comment section below. Thank you for sharing and being an inspiration to others!

I'll finish this post with a quote from The Dalai Lama that I absolutely love.

Man sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.


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  • Reply
    Team CF
    March 7, 2016 at 3:14 am

    Wow, you guys have done some awesome things in life and have a very interesting and aspiring bucket-list!

    We are in the process or reorganizing our thoughts on our bucket list(s). We have managed to do quite a few already. But having moved back to the Netherlands and restarting our lives here, the whole bucket-list thing got snowed under a bit. Once we have settled a bit more, we will take another look at it again. One thing is for sure, it involves financial independence and travelling.

    Funny things is that the bucket-list also changes over time when you grow older, there have been several (material) things that have dropped off the list in recent years.

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      March 7, 2016 at 2:21 pm

      Hi Team CF,

      It's pretty amazing how much we've done so far. Fill-the-bucket list is a bit different than our bucket list though as we have lots of ambiguous items on our bucket list.

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    March 7, 2016 at 7:02 am

    Well said. We all need to sit down and really think about why we are chasing after money. It'll probably give us security but it may not have a lot to do happiness.
    Wow you certainly have a lot of experiences. Seeing you guys having done so many fun things definitely made me want to make a bucket list as well.
    BTW, the section of the Great Wall you walked on probably doesn't have much history - it totally looks re-constructed. LOL

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      March 7, 2016 at 2:22 pm

      Hi Carlie,

      The section of the Great Wall that I visited was not very touristy and parts of it is actually in ruin. If you are not careful you can fall off the wall. I don't know how much history it has though.

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    March 7, 2016 at 7:23 am

    What a nice list you have here. The mountain climbing is really awsome. And the winter camping is not too bad either! I like the fact that the baby has a spot in it as well. That are indeed great moments to mention and remember.

    You are soo right that life is about being open to opportunities. You have to explore the unknown and test it. It is better to be sorry about something you did, than to be sorry later in life for not doing something that sounded to crazy at that time. Go out and explore.

    Thx for the mention


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      March 7, 2016 at 2:23 pm

      Hi ambertreeleaves,

      It's great to take some time and reflect what we've done so far. Being open to opportunities is definitely a great idea.

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    March 7, 2016 at 9:12 am

    Amazing...looks like you are going through some great things in your bucket list, T. Thanks for sharing -- love the pictures too.


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      March 7, 2016 at 2:23 pm

      Thanks R2R.

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    Dividend Monster
    March 7, 2016 at 9:48 am


    Great to see that you've acheived so many things in your bucket list already. I've also been striving to knock things off my bucket list through the years. Last one to get done was going horseback riding (got this one knocked off on the honeymoon!). Life is short and we all need to make sure to remember that. You can die tomorrow and all you can take with you is your experiences. Thanks for the read.

    -Dividend Monster

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      March 7, 2016 at 2:24 pm

      Hi Dividend Monster,

      I've done some horseback riding but have to say it's not my thing. 🙂

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    Investment Hunting
    March 7, 2016 at 9:50 am

    Awesome post Tawcan. You've done some amazing things a a young age. I must say you eye for photography is fantastic. Great photos. I haven't had breakfast yet, I could have done without the photo of the desserts 🙂

    I'll take your challenge. My fill-in bucket list post is coming soon.

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      Investment Hunting
      March 7, 2016 at 9:53 am

      Oops, I forgot to comment on your books. What a fantastic idea. How special to have created these and to have them for your children to save in the future.

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        March 7, 2016 at 2:24 pm

        Hi Investment Hunting,

        Thanks for your kind words. Desserts before meal isn't a bad idea occasionally. Can't wait to see your fill-the-bucket list.

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    FI Fighter
    March 7, 2016 at 12:22 pm

    Awesome pics! You're making me want to pack my bags and travel pronto! 🙂

    • Reply
      March 7, 2016 at 2:27 pm

      Hi FI Fighter,

      You definitely have great opportunity to travel around the world now you've quit your job. 🙂

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    March 7, 2016 at 1:03 pm

    Great list in your fill the bucket. People can often lose sight of the big picture. Posts like yours are a nice reminder to take a broader view of life. It brings much more happiness.

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      March 7, 2016 at 2:28 pm

      Hi Matt,

      Thanks, glad to have provided nice reminder to take a broader view of life.

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    March 7, 2016 at 3:09 pm

    I'm so glad you participated. This one was epic, indeed! And, um, I Need to add a cake table to my life. How would I do that? 🙂

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      March 7, 2016 at 3:20 pm

      Easy, visit Denmark in the summer and purchase a ticket to the Cake Table well in advance. It was a very neat experience.

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    Penny @ She Picks Up Pennies
    March 7, 2016 at 3:50 pm

    This is awesome! From Alaska to cookbooks and everything in between. You'd done so much. My favorite part is what a balanced approach that you seem to take between spending on experiences and saving.

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      March 8, 2016 at 10:33 am

      Hi Penny,

      Glad that you enjoyed reading the article. Having a balanced approach is indeed very important.

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    our next life
    March 7, 2016 at 10:08 pm

    What a cool list! I'm so glad you added yours to our growing list of bloggers who've posted their full buckets! And love your photos, as always. Are those your names on your cookbook?? Should we be calling you Bob instead of Tawcan? 🙂

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      March 8, 2016 at 10:34 am

      Hi Our Next Life,

      Thanks. Let's continue using my secret internet name Tawcan. 😀

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    The Personal Economist
    March 7, 2016 at 10:52 pm

    Love your list, welcome to the the Fill-Your-Bucket community! You are braver than me to climb those mountains. I love the pic of the Great Wall, it is on my Future Bucket List.
    And your suggested question Are you a happier person with whatever outcome you decide? is a great one. I'm struggling with a choice at the moment and it made me realise I will be happier if I don't take action. Thanks for sharing.

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      March 8, 2016 at 10:36 am

      Hi The Personal Economist,

      Thank you for the warm welcome. It was definitely cool to visit the Great Wall. You need to decide some things that'll make you happen in the long run.

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    Mr. SSC
    March 8, 2016 at 9:11 am

    Nice list, I love the photos as always! I've been working more on evaluating if the choices I make actually make me happier or not. It's led to some interesting changes I have to say, but it's a great thought exercise that you propose, just the same.

    Like you mention with life being about choices and the right balance, it's easy now to say, "We'd rather have time than a great title at work, high paying jobs, etc..." but that's mainly because we've been there and its afforded us a lot, but man, it sucks a LOT of time and energy from life. As soon as possible, we want to be free of it and get more life back into our current balance, which is pretty out of whack.

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      March 8, 2016 at 10:39 am

      Hi Mr. SSC,

      Thank you. Being free and have the freedom to decide what you want to do for life instead being tied down to a job is a great one. 🙂

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    [email protected]
    March 8, 2016 at 12:18 pm

    Wow you guys have already accomplished a lot...and there is much more life to live. So true about making your little one laugh...their laugh is contagious! And pretty cool that you guys published a book. I know you've mentioned it before but it would be interesting to know the process of getting a book published.

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      March 9, 2016 at 1:59 pm

      Little ones' laughs are indeed contagious. Makes you wonder why we don't laugh like that.

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    Tristan @ Dividendsdownunder
    March 10, 2016 at 4:31 am

    Hey Tawcan, that's a really cool list. Random note before my reply, the i letter (between H and J) on everyone's replies has disappeared to me. Eg [email protected]'s reply reads to me:

    'Wow you guys have already accomplshed a lot...and there s much more lfe to lve. So true about makng your lttle one laugh...ther laugh s contagous! And pretty cool that you guys publshed a book. I know you've mentoned t before but t would be nterestng to know the process of gettng a book publshed.' I'm using Google Chrome not Internet Explorer 1995 so I'm not sure what's up with that, just letting you know.

    Anyway, my reply. I loved your article. I'm so happy Mt. Gandalf is a place! A great name for a mountain, perhaps there was a Mt. Moria right next to it.

    Major kudos for learning English..and then posting an articulate, hugely popular blog in your second language. Do you still talk / think / etc in..Mandarin? (Is it Mandarin?)

    I love your suggestion of eating without TV. We have become a little guilty of that, partly due to how not-functional our dining space was, not a good orientation of the table + chairs. But we've recently bought a new table, but still haven't eaten at the table much. Your no-tv choice made me decide we should have more quality time together too, so we will be eating dinner at the table, no TV, at least 3 times a weak, maybe 4 or 5, depends what we eat each night. Tonight was the first night we had our new-dinner plan 🙂 It was nice, we had kievs and a very good conversation.

    Very yummy food pics, I'm now hungry. Are you willing to climb non-pointy rocks such as mt kilimanjaro?

    I'm probably more of a save-for-the-future person, but we still love the things we do. I think it's more doing things that are fun, but are good for your income/wealth. For example, think how much a road trip to a reasonably-close-place costs us as 2 young 20s, some petrol and maybe a cheapish meal out, we've had a great day and explored a new place we've never been. At some point in our lives we want to go on a long holiday to New Zealand, go to several cities and stay in nice hotels, see the scenery etc, this would cost many thousands of dollars. We figure it's better to do the the cheap fun things now in our lives, compound our money and then be able to afford the more expensive things as time goes on. Have fun without sacrificing the future us' fun too to places further afield.

    Great quote at the end. We'll (nearly) always have worries, better to worry/make an effort about things we can change rather than things we can't make a difference to. Eg Make an effort to live healthy, but don't worry about getting old / sick at some point.


    • Reply
      March 10, 2016 at 10:40 am

      Hi Tristan,

      The area Mt. Gandalf is in, all the surrounding peaks and ski runs are named after Lord of the Rings. 🙂

      I still speak Mandarin with my parents but obviously communicate with Mrs. T in English. Teaching Baby T1.0 Mandarin. I've been using Mandarin for my job lately so that's a nice way to practice.

      Spending more quality time at meals is a great idea to learn more about what happened to other family members during their day. It's our way to spend quality time together. I'd love to summit Mt. Kilimanjaro once day, good friends of mine did that a few years ago. Good call on doing cheap travel now and more fancy travels later in life. That's the way I did it as well.

      Appreciate your long comment.

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    March 10, 2016 at 6:56 am

    We all need to settle down and truly consider why we are Chang after cash. It'll presumably give us security yet t might not have a considerable measure to do joy. Wow you surely have a considerable measure of encounters. Seeing you all having done as such numerous fun things certainly made me need to make a container First too.

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      March 10, 2016 at 10:42 am

      Thanks Elroy.

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    March 10, 2016 at 7:00 pm

    Excellent! It looks like you have a very fulfilling life!

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      March 11, 2016 at 10:31 am

      Thanks Nick.

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    March 11, 2016 at 8:01 am

    That's an impressive list. It's really neat that you have a cook book.
    Thanks for the Dalai Lama quote at the end too. Cheers

    • Reply
      March 11, 2016 at 10:31 am

      Hi Joe,

      Thanks for taking the time to comment.

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    Jayson @ Monster Piggy Bank
    March 12, 2016 at 4:21 am

    From now on, I would make a choice that would surely make my life better and a great one! Thanks Taw! You're an inspiration.

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    March 13, 2016 at 4:20 pm

    I had made a fill the bucket list a few weeks ago, and totally forgot about 2010, and it was such a highlight for me as well. Especially since my son was part of the closing ceremony (dancer), and my daughter was a placard bearer for the disability games (they asked local non-disabled provincial athletes to do the honor). The same daughter was also asked to be a torch bearer in New Westminster! And my youngest daughter performed violin in many venues. As a result we were able to go to the closing ceremonies of the winter games and opening ceremonies of the disability games. And there was the mens gold medal game! The streets were deserted! there were no cars driving, it was almost eerie. We were on Granville island when they won and the whole city erupted.

    Those two weeks were right up there with
    feeding alligators in Louisiana,
    going down an amazonian river tributary in a dug out canoe and camping on it's banks (this was back when Eco-tourism wasn't even a word yet),
    The Galapagos,
    going to a lobster boil in Halifax,
    partying in the streets of Quebec City,
    Climbing over Castle ruins on the beach in Scotland,
    Cross country Skiing in Banff,
    Everything about New Orleans
    Drinking Margaritas made from Glacier ice in Alaska
    A Luau in Hawaii
    and on and on...

    • Reply
      March 14, 2016 at 1:45 pm

      Hi Rose,

      That's really cool you were able to go to the closing and opening ceremonies. The city did erupt when Canada won the mens hockey final. It was insane. Sounds like you had an absolutely awesome 2010. I'd love to feed alligators in Louisiana one of these days.

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    Xyz from Financial Path.
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