Food for thought – 7 aha moments

While I believe we can learn many things from traveling, I also believe that we can learn a lot from reading books. Since the existence of humanity, a lot of knowledge have been passed down through writings. Almost everything we need to know have been written down in a book somewhere, and if they haven’t, someone is in the process of writing a book to record such new knowledge. For the last few years, Mrs. T and I have been focusing a lot on reading personal finance and investing books, trying to increase our knowledge in these two areas. Lately though, we have been reading more and more self-improvement/self-development books like The Art of Peace by Morihei Uneshiba, and Everyday Wisdom for Success by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer.

While reading I came across many super-duper awesome quotes from these two books that hit me in the head and gave me a bunch of “aha moments.” I’d like to share them with you, my dear reader, today and I hope you enjoy them as much as I do. 🙂

The Divine is not something high above us. It is in heaven, it is in earth, it is inside us.

Enjoy everything that happens in your life, but never make your happiness or success dependent on an attachment to any person, place, or thing.

Most people are searching for happiness outside of themselves. That’s a fundamental mistake. Happiness is something you are, and it comes from the way you think.

A successful person isn’t someone who makes a lot of money. A successful person brings success to everything that he or she does, and money is one of the payoffs.

Try to free yourself from placing a cash value on everything you have, do, and say. Do what your heart tells you will bring you joy, rather than determining whether it will be cost-effective.

Did you ever notice that some people never have enough, while other people always do?

Aha moment #1: Externally driven happiness can only last momentarily. To become blissful and joyful, we need to look from within. It is only when we find inner peace we can be truly happy. Do things that we enjoy doing and stop doing things because we were told by others that these things will make us happy. Listen to our intuition, it’s a very powerful tool that we all need to learn to trust. Stop equating having money as being successful. We need to free ourselves from attaching monetary value to everything in our lives. Money is merely one of the payoffs that we receive as a return for our actions. If we only think about money, we’ll never be satisfied.

As soon as you concern yourself with the “good” and “bad” of your fellows, you create an opening in your heart for maliciousness to enter. Testing, competing with, and criticizing others weaken and defeat you.

Aha moment #2: Not caring what others think and say about you is important; it is just as important to stop yourself from judging others. What we put out will return to us 10 fold. When we judge or criticize, we are making ourselves vulnerable and asking someone to judge and criticize us in return.

The only cure for materialism is the cleansing of the six senses (eyes, ears, nose, tongue, body, and mind). If the senses are clogged, one’s perception is stifled. The more it is stifled, the more contaminated the senses become. This creates disorder in the world, and that is the greatest evil of all. Polish the heart, free the six senses and let them function without obstruction, and your entire body and soul will glow.

Aha moment #3: Be clear with these six senses and we can all become better beings. We get stuck in the materialistic world because our senses are clogged and we cannot sense the world clearly.

Each day of human life contains joy and anger, pain and pleasure, darkness and light, growth and decay. Each moment is etched with nature’s grand design – do not try to deny or oppose the cosmic order of things.

Aha moment #4: These emotions are part of life. We can’t be happy all the time; we can’t be angry all the time; we can’t be sad all the time. We will encounter good and bad things in life. We need to face them and learn from such experience. When we oppose these experiences, we are only making our lives harder for ourselves.

Chasing success is like trying to squeeze a handful of water. The tighter you squeeze, the less water you get. When you chase it, your life becomes the chase, and you become a victim of always wanting more.

When you argue for your limitations, all you get are your limitations.

Having a plan for success isn’t necessarily unhealthy, but falling in love with the plan is a real neurosis… Don’t let your plan become bigger than you are.

Aha moment #5: If we put our right hand directly in front of our face, that’s all we can see. If we only focus on limitations and have no flexibility, we will not be able to find any alternatives. While laser focus is helpful in some situations, learn to see all the different possibilities and be open to things you might not even expect to appear in your life.

There is no stress in the world, only people thinking stressful thoughts.

Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.

Aha moment #6: There’s no such thing as stress. We create stress ourselves. We stress ourselves out because we’re thinking about what’s going to happen in the future. Live in the present moment and do what we love will make us much happier. Follow our heart and abundance will come to us.

Have you thought about the fact that you are the sum total of all your choices up until this moment?

You aren’t what you do, so don’t equate yourself with your job or achievements.

There are some people who live 70 years, and there are some people who live one year 70 times, repeating what they’re doing over and over in the name of the gold watch or whatever.

In any challenging situation, ask yourself this: Am I part of the problem or part of the solution?

The two most unnecessary emotions in life are guilt and worry.

Aha moment #7: Isn’t it funny that when we meet someone for the first time, we usually ask the “what do you do for work” question? Why do we determine who people are based on their professions? Shouldn’t we ask someone that we just met what he or she enjoys doing instead? We are who we are right now because the choices that we made in the past. We can’t change these but we can make choices now to change our lives from now on. Rather than repeating our lives doing the same thing or making the same decision over and over again, be creative, be flexible, be present, be spontaneous and live our lives so we can have different and new experiences. Stop being part of the problem and not willing to change; start being part of the solution and make this world a better place. Be happy, be kind, and be generous.

Finally I’ll leave you with a quote from my better half, Mrs. T:

Happiness is the reward when we learn to forgive ourselves.

When we let go of blaming ourselves and others, for things that happen in our life, and take responsibility for our reactions and actions instead, then we can be truly happy. It comes from within ourselves, just like peace. We can’t rely on another person, a situation, or an external factor, to make us happy. We need to look inwards.

Forgiving ourselves for the mistakes we make is the best way to reach the state of happiness, because we are being good to ourselves. We accept ourselves in spite of our flaws and mistakes.

We are not at fault for the things that happens in our life. We are responsible for the way we react to them. So if you take a moment to just breathe and look at your life from the outside, can you see yourself as a loving, caring and happy person? One that responds in a calm and relaxed way? If you can, great! If not, there might be something that you need to forgive yourself for.

Written by Tawcan
Hi I’m Bob from Vancouver Canada, I am working toward joyful life and financial independence through frugal living, dividend investing, passive income generation, life balance, and self-improvement. This blog is my way to chronicle my journey and share my stories and thoughts along the way. Stay in touch on Facebook and Twitter. Or sign up via Newsletter